A Sober First Kiss

Ahh, the first kiss.  It’s so important, it’s the kiss to remember if you and the person you’re dating stay together. A sober first kiss requires a lot of confidence. Look your date in the eyes, touch them lightly on the hand, the shoulder, the waist, lean in and do it. You can’t hesitate, or if you do or are nervous, tell your date. It’s endearing. Everyone has really good first kiss stories (share yours in the comments!), but I have a secret to tell you, Nerdlets.  The first kiss isn’t always amazing.  Sometimes, the first kiss is just plain awkward.  Think about it, you don’t really know your date and you’re touching lips with the person.  Weird.  But, I have some tips to make it less awkward, in case you are a little nervous about diving into this experience.

Now, make it memorable.  That doesn’t mean you have to take your date somewhere special, (though you can), but you need to do something to make it stand out.  That could be looking into his/her eyes, tucking her hair behind her ear, bringing your hand up to his face, or twining your fingers together, but something should stand out and make it worth thinking about later.  The best first kisses show a little tenderness, from both parties.

And here is something very, very important.  You might not agree, but I feel obligated to mention this.  Don’t. Use. Tongue. I really really advise against it, and for a few very good reasons.  1) Using tongue while kissing requires a certain finesse, a certain familiarity between the two people kissing.  It’s more intimate that a tongue-less kiss, and first kisses are a sort of opening round for a longer show to come (hopefully).  2) Using tongue between two people who don’t know each other well can lead to a messy, wet battleground, and when I said to make it memorable, I meant in a good way, not in a wet way.  3) If you use tongue, tease with it, don’t shove with it. For. Realz. You gotta leave some reason for your date to come back for more.

Now this might be a few too many details for some of you, but you all have been on the receiving end of a sloppy, sloppy first kiss.  Think classy, not sloppy. Think sweet, not wet.

Now I have a song that reminds me of a first kiss, or the way a first kiss should make a person feel.  Even if you don’t like the song, or would never listen to it on a regular day, listen to the happiness in the piano, the playful alliterative nature of the lyrics, and to what the lyrics say.  This is exactly how a first kiss should sound in your head (and the cartoons in it are completely adorable):

What do you think?  Any other first kiss tips or first kiss stories to share?

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Confidence Building

Nerdlets, I think the best way to build confidence when you are approaching someone is to have a theme song playing in your head.  You know, that one song that makes you feel like a badass, like the most attractive person in the world. Be it “Eye of the Tiger” or “I’m Sexy and I know it” or whatever, everyone needs a song that makes them puff out their chests, walk with confidence, and not care what anyone thinks.

I have two main theme songs, and I have been known not only to sing them in my head on or after the approach, but also to dance and sing them as loud as I can in the car.  My first is a “Portion for Foxes” by Rilo Kiley. It’s just got the right beat and the right words, and it makes me feel so damn good!!! Have a listen:

I also really love “How to Be a Heartbreaker” by Marina and the Diamonds.  Seriously, who doesn’t feel like a bad ass after listening to this song:

We all have songs that make us feel awesome, so What are your theme songs?